Just fill in any
nickname and click "Connect Now"
unless you want to
use mIRC below - Server is Austnet - #birthmothers
Chat
Room Guidelines
This
chat room is for RECOVERY purposes. If you're feeling suicidal, the
need to self injure, or experiencing extreme crisis, this room is not for you.
You need to be on the phone calling 911 or your local suicide or crisis
hot line. If you're not comfortable with that than you can use our
hotline page for people to
talk with. This room is not equipped to handle these crises. Discussing
suicide is extremely upsetting to everyone in the room. If you
come in and discuss these topics in the room or in private, you will
be given suicidal resources and be invited back when you are not in
crisis. If you come back and continue, you will be kicked and banned.
ATTENTION.
NO MORE POPUPS!! Do to the fact that some of our guests
have neurological problems including epilepsy, we have to ban popups.
They have caused seizures and other problems for these guests. If
you don't know what a popup is then your not using them.
For
those familiar with IRC and wish to use more robust clients such as
mIRC or Pirch.
The server is Austnet and the room name is #bpdtoday.
*This chat room engages in mature discussions which may not always
be suitable for minors. (People under the age of 18)
Borderline Personality Disorder involves many aspects of our lives
which are all discussed in this chat room. We realize that we
cannot prevent minors from entering the room, however, we believe
that the parent/guardian of those under the age of 18 should be
aware of their presence here. We appreciate your cooperation.*
Other
Topics: Nicknames, Self Injury,
Suicide,
Rules:
1. Pick a nickname that you like and try to use it all the time. When people change their nickname it becomes confusing to others in the room and you will find people asking you the same questions over again because they don't realize who you are. Sometimes while joking around, people will change their nickname for a few minutes but we will always join the channel with the same nickname and change it back to what we normally use.
2. If you find that the room is too busy or you are needing to speak to someone in private, please message an operator and they will be willing (in most cases) to speak with you in private. The operators are the ones with the @ symbol next to their nick. (if you are using "ircle" for macintosh the operators will have their names in red)
3. Please remember this is a support room of people who cannot
substitute for your therapist or Dr. We do not offer medical advice.
These things
include which medications would benefit an individual, recommending
to someone to stop taking a medication, discussing how individual
medications work or helping/encouraging someone to 'self diagnose'
online. You may discuss your own personal experiences with the
understanding that everyone will have a different experience.
4. This site is tolerant of all religious beliefs, however, this chat room is not the appropriate place to discuss any one religion. You may use simple terms such as "I will pray for ****" But there are other places on the internet for these discussions.
5. Sexual discussions will not be tolerated. Joking around is one thing, but I think those of us in the room realize what is inappropriate. If you don't know what is inappropriate, an operator will remind you.
6. Offensive language/cussing is limited. The
only swear words you can say in this room are Hell, Damn, Ass,
Crap, Sucks, and Pissed. We realize that sometimes when you're
feeling emotional you may tend to use swear words, however, this
is where we have set the limit for what is accepted in this chat
room. Many people are offended by the use of swear words.
7. No inappropriate nicknames. We can all use our own judgment on this. If an op asks you to change your nickname because it's inappropriate, please change it.
Topics which are inappropriate for this chat room include:
-Discussions of suicide and/or suicidal/parasuicidal behavior. At no time is this appropriate for a support room for BPD.
-Discussions of self injury when not related to recovery. You may discuss ways to help one stop this negative
behavior. You may NOT tell "war stories" about self injury. This means no telling stories about previous self injury.
-Any verbally abusive behavior towards another chat room member will NOT be tolerated.
-Discussions of alcohol or street drugs except in a recovery aspect. Again, no "war stories" on drinking or using drugs. This includes discussion of self medicating with prescription drugs.
-Discussions of self destructive behavior. This includes speeding, criminal
behavior, etc) Yes some people may say "oh crap, I got a speeding ticket today" and that isn't a big deal but we don't want continued discussions of reckless driving and criminal
behavior and things of that sort.
-Bringing in outside disagreements is inappropriate.
-Offensive quit messages will NOT be tolerated.
-Any topic which is best discussed with your therapist/Dr. is not appropriate for this chat room. Such topics include
sexual abuse, physical abuse, etc...To ask for help because you are being abused is okay. A moderator of the room or someone else will probably be able to give you a phone number to call for help, but beyond this, it's not appropriate for this room.
About
nicknames and how to register them
To register your nick type /msg NickOP register password emailaddress
replace the word password with a password of your choice, and the words emailaddress with your email address.
To identify (sign on to the services) type /msg [email protected] identify password
password being the password you registered your nick with.
You can prevent other people using your nick by setting the kill option on (if you do this you have to identify everytime you log on) by typing /msg NickOP set kill on
If you are disconnected and need to kick your ghost nick off type
/msg [email protected] kill nick password
nick being your ghost nickname, password being the password you registered your nick with.
To change your nick type /nick newnick
newnick being whatever you would like your nick to be.
Self
Injury
Anyone
who is at risk for Self Injury should call 911 or their local crisis
intervention group. This is not the group for them as the person
needs a trained specialist. Some methods of dealing with this
behavior can be found here.
There is inpatient facility expressly for those who self injure
which can be reached at 1-800-DONT-CUT The ops in the chat room
have been flooded with people coming in saying they are harming
themselves. You are responsible for your own actions and to seek
treatment. The OPs are not trained to deal with this behavior.
Suicide
Anyone
who is at risk for suicide should call 911 or their local crisis
intervention group. This is not the group for them as the person
needs a trained specialist. The ops in the chat room have
been flooded with suicidal people coming in. Many who do not have
have the borderline personality disorder and many who are are playing
games with the chat operators. When this happens, no time can be
spent with others in the chat room and this discussion is upsetting
for everyone. People who are feeling suicidal will be referred to these resources, where they
can receive the proper guidance and assistance. They do not belong
in the chat room as it is not a safe place for suicidal people and
ops are not trained for that.
Mental Health Today provides a list
of volunteers who will accept telephone calls from people who are
feeling suicidal ideation and/or are in crisis. Also available is an on-line
email support group called BPD - Self Harm/Suicide List This is
a list for those with Borderline Personality Disorder who struggle
to cope with self-harm and either feeling or being suicidal. It
is an unmoderated list in which anything and everything can be discussed.
On the BPDSHS list there are no rules. List members can post about
details of both self-harm and suicide attempts. This list must be
used at the list members own risk and each person should be aware
before joining that there are no rules being enforced on this list.
Click here to
join this list. Thank You.
