Common Myths about the Borderline Personality Disorder
by Patty Pheil M.S.W.

Many myths about the borderline personality disorder are prevalent in our society not only among lay people, but mental health professionals as well. These myths are a great obstacle in BPD treatment and some  can make our condition worse. What are some of these myths?

I sat down and wrote out some common myths about the BPD but I would imagine there are at least hundreds more that are prevalent - things we hear from our Drs. and therapists, from our friends and families and some from old material written about the BPD before more was known.

1. Having this disorder is permanent and you will always have it to the same degree that you do now. After all, it is an Axis II disorder and that alone means borderlines don't get better.
2. You have a problem with your personality. You are flawed. The very name "Borderline Personality Disorder" is ALL reflective of what this disorder actually is. In real truth, many agree that this term was "mis-named." Dr. Heller calls it "Dyslimbia." In fact he states "" ‘Dys’ means malfunction, and limbia meaning from the limbic system. Dyslimbia’ is malfunction of the limbic system. While other neuropsychiatric disorders involve malfunction of the limbic system, the limbic system dysfunction is profound in the BPD. I chose Dyslimbia for my patients to take the stigma away. The BPD needs a new name, one that emphasizes healing not labeling." 
3. The BPD is caused only by abuse (physical, sexual or emotional).
4. Those of us with the BPD need to go into psychotherapy and try to "remember" that trauma and feel the pain in order to resolve it.
5. All borderlines are the same. They act the same way, feel the same way, etc.
6. There is no such thing as the BPD. Borderlines are just manipulative, "bad" and hurt other people on purpose.
7. Reasoning with a borderline about their behavior, thoughts or feelings will make a difference.
8. Partners and families have some control over their loved one’s illness.
9. Medication will not help borderlines. All psychotropic medications are addictive and borderlines are "weak" for taking medications.
10. All prescribers know how to treat this disorder.
11. All prescribers agree on how to treat this disorder.
12. All clinicians agree on the etiology (cause) of the BPD.
13. Everything is known that needs to be known about the BPD. No more research needs to be done.
14. It is the borderline’s fault for having this disorder or it is always the parent’s fault.
15. Borderlines shouldn’t forgive themselves for the "awful" things they did while in a rage or in depression. They were in total control during these episodes.
16. Having the BPD means the person is "crazy."   
17. The BPD means you have more than one personality.
18. All borderlines need is medication. Therapy is not necessary. Or, the opposite. All the borderlines need is therapy as medication will not help.
19. It is rare that borderlines will have other disorders such as AD(H)D, OCD, panic disorder, anxiety, bipolar disorder, migraines, irritable bowel disorder or other personality disorders.
20. There is one set or combination of medications that will treat all people with this disorder. Every one with the BPD will improve on the same medications.
21. You have to be a "cutter" to have the BPD. You have to have all of the criteria listed in the DSM IV.
22. BPDs manipulate.