This new bulletin board is moderated as people were abusing the previous board (mostly outsiders) and everyone voted to have this new board moderated to keep everyone safe. All messages to the board will be reviewed before they are sent to the board. Messages that do not conform to the rules below will not be added to the bulletin board. This is for your protection so that there will be no flaming, no inappropriate posts, no family members, clinicians, etc.

This is not a place for families, friends or clinicians. Your messages will not be posted. Families have their own un-moderated bulletin board here. Also there are many excellent resources on the Internet for families of borderlines such as email support groups.  Please see my "Resource" section.

Bulletin Board Rules:

Suicidal ideation and discussions of suicide are permitted as long as you are not at immediate risk. Thoughts of suicide are normal for many of us as we suffer depression, etc. We need to discuss these things openly. 

However, anyone who is actively suicidal (i.e. at risk) is not permitted into the room as you are encouraged to call 911 immediately. I have written a  suicide crisis intervention section for you including many resources here. Also check out our "Haven of Hope Sanctuary Hotline" here where you can call or write volunteers directly.

You are welcome back into the bulletin board after you have taken the steps necessary to save your life and you are no longer at risk.

Discussion of self-mutilation or self-harm can be discussed as long as you mention it in your subject after the word "Trigger:" Discussion of these topics can be a trigger for some people so we need to protect everyone on this board. If you feel you may be triggered in anyway by the subject matter, wait until you are able to handle that subject.

Graphic descriptions of self-mutilation are not allowed on this board. 

Self-destructive behavior (speeding, shop-lifting, criminal behavior, etc.) again are permitted with the subject put in the subject line. IE - Trigger: Speeding.

No arguments are permitted on this bulletin board. It is fine to say you disagree with someone and why, but it is not appropriate to argue or flame someone. This is not the place to rage. This is the place to discuss your rages.

No foul language is permitted. (If you absolutely must, crap, hell, damn and ass, pissed, pissed, pissed off and sucks are permitted). Also you cannot use symbols to spell out any part of swear words. It is true that there are times when curse words are helpful when expressing yourself and they are very powerful. However, many people take offense to this and many times this habit can be abused. This is also a good place to practice disagreements with positive discussion versus splitting and raging.

If you have left a message and do not find it posted, chances are your message has broken an above rule. Moderators are instructed to delete posts rather than edit them. Try again and if it doesn't break any rules, we will be happy to post it.

If a member continues to break the rules of the board and/or demonstrates very disruptive behavior on the board, he/she will be banned from the board after receiving fair warning.

We happen to think you are very special and we will be providing a safe atmosphere for everyone.

Brandycorc is our Board Manager and Administrator, however if you are having a problem with another member on the board we encourage you to initially try to work the issue out with the other person. Use of this board can provide excellent practice skills you can take out into the real world. 

Please feel free to open up and let it out...let it all out. This board is extremely confidential and you will find that you are not alone and that many people cry the same tears.

You will see that your section of the board is called Parents Only